The Smokin(g) Asian

What is it that causes attraction, what are the words a person can say so that you become emotionally attached prior to even meeting.

Attracted to someone based on phone conversations only, surely not…………I’m a guy after all, growing up my father taught me to find myself a pretty girl who cares if she has nothing of interest or consequence to say. Welcome to Ella………

Ella the perfect girl or so I thought…………and so the story begins. “We have a great introduction for you Paul…….Ella, 30 years old, good job, healthy lifestyle, main interest basketball”. Basketball…….main interest Basketball, I am immediately in love and ask for the phone number.

And so the call is made, first conversation nerves I don’t think so, awkward silence nope there’s none of that either, I look down at my watch and two hours have now passed, who is this girl what piece of heaven has she descended from, why am I falling for this girl. Snap out of it I say, and don’t build your hopes at least until yet get to know her a little more.

There’s a second conversation, and then a third and the hours we spend on the phone fly by like minutes……she has a knowledge of the NBA like no women I’ve ever met, but what has happened to me a transformation has taken place I have gone from being singular and guarded to becoming “emotionally attached”.

That’s a mistake! Why you cry, because this little anecdote has taught me the more attached you become the more disappointing things will inevitably turn out.

And so the “date” takes place and make no mistake Ella is quite the looker, but something is wrong, everything has gone up in smoke in literally…….the chemistry, the ease of conversation, the laughter, the shared interests everything appears to have evaporated, we shuffle uncomfortably in our seats and stumble through our meals and one hour’s worth of forced conversation. I pay the bill and we leave and almost immediately upon leaving the restaurant she “lights up” we say our goodbyes and I start to ponder what might have been……….how can something so great have crumbled so quickly.

Hopefully Ella will find her Prince Charming, based on the little I know of her she appears to genuinely deserve it………….I am disappointed but not bitter.

I have had “dates” not work out before and usually I recover quickly, but this is different this one stings and the reason why…………because I’d become emotionally attached to a person I’d never met.

An important life lesson learned I say………..the quest continues.