I am posting relatively early today as the Raptors are playing in San Antonio and I fear it could be a beating so I will post now rather than later on when I will undoubtedly be less content with life than I am now. Another day off work and I am slowly starting to feel more recharged and energized although am concerned about my health both mental and physical………
On the physical side I played squash, another win but I am flat out exhausted and couldn’t be bothered to do my weight routine afterwards although I guess the day off will do me good. On the mental side I went to see the movie the bucket list, the premise of which is interesting to say the least, if you knew you only had 6 months to live what would be the things you would want to do before you quite literally “kick the bucket”this is an interesting question and one I may post on in the coming days……..whilst I am not planning on kicking the bucket there are a few things I would like to achieve before my days are over.
The reason I am concerned about my mental health, is because there was a quote that was so good it would have made my favourite quotes list, but sadly I can’t remember what it is, hopefully it will come to me in the next few days.
I am posting under dating stories today also, whilst it is not technically a dating story it is a list of dating rules that I intend to follow in the coming months, the list was written as an article on MSN although I have tailored it for my specific situation……..whilst the list is in no particular order pay special attention to items 1, 3, 5, 8, and 9 do they ring a bell with my own behaviour, I believe so…….in fact I know so.
Dating Rules 2008
Mood for the day 7 out of 10.
December 28, 2007
The basis for this list was found on MSN and given I’m pretty much fed up with dating and ready for a relationship I will try and follow the advice in 2008. The list has been tailored to suit my own needs and is in no particular order:
10. I will explore new hobbies and interests. How many women do I honestly think I will meet at either basketball or the gym, admittedly the gym may have a few but it would break one of my golden rules of never “hit on anyone at the gym” What will my new hobby be at the moment I have no idea although at some stage I should really learn how to cook.
9. I will give someone a chance. Sooner or later, probably sooner I’ll meet someone who falls outside my description of the person I think I’m looking for. But do I actually know what I am looking for given my dating disasters of the past, what I do know is that I have rejected perfectly good people for reasons such as…….they have a dog, they have no funny stories, they live more than 20 blocks away or they have a square shaped head.
8. I will stop falling for the idea of a person. As soon as I hear that someone has a fascinating occupation (E.g. Lawyer) or hobbies (E.g. Love of the NBA) I create an artificial image in my head of we can watch games together and I can be financially taken care of. I will try and prevent doing this in 2008 and wait to learn who people really are.
7. I will start flirting more. I think I flirt quite a bit already or so I’ve been told, but a little bit more can’t hurt.
6. I will not make too much eye contact. And no this does not mean I will spend the entire time checking out other parts of my date’s anatomy it simply means that I will find a happy balance of looking someone in the eye whilst speaking, but not turning into some kind of weird gazing into her eyes kind of freak.
5. I will not tell my life story on a first date. I think I have done quite a lot in my first 34 years on the planet and have certainly been on my fair share of dates……do I really need to recite my memoirs over a first coffee, probably not.
4. I will let her have a word in edgeways. It is, after all, polite to have a two-way conversation!
3. I will be straightforward with decent people who I am not interested in pursuing a relationship with. I will not lead people on if I don’t think there is any chance of a relationship developing, there have been at least 5 or 6 people this year where things have gone to the 4th or 5th date and I have sat there from date 2 onwards thinking, what am I doing here, why am I wasting this girl’s time and my own. It is both unfair and to a certain extent cruel, I will use lines such as “I don’t think we’re a match. Good luck.” and “I had a nice time on Friday, but I can’t see us working out. Thanks for the evening, and good luck.”
2. I will play my favorite power tunes before I go out on a date to get me pumped up and feeling confident. Not really sure about this one, I will probably give myself a little pep talk before going out, keep my expectations realistic and go with the two goals of a) To be myself and b) To have a good time.
1. I will bounce back better. Sarah, Eva there is nothing else to say……disappointment, the dream being shattered comes as part of the territory, I’ll deal with it, put it behind me and move on. Holding out hope for something that’s never going to happen simply eats you up inside.
December 28, 2007
